How do you know if you are addicted

I called the Institute for Addiction/Recovery today and actually talked to the person who did the assessment. I asked if she could share the criteria, and she went a step further and actually shared his responses. We talked further after, and she does feel he was "minimalizing", that he was trying to point the finger to me, and that he was only there because I asked him to go. She also said he seems to be "shut down", he seem disheveled, that its obvious he isn't taking care of himself, and he did have bad hygiene. So, she said, I'm on the right track and there are other things, obviously, going on there with him. I think she did say that he mentioned the game as escape or coping, too - but again, for 3 years? I was in the car for this call, so I didn't write it all down, and I won't confront him with it. The lady said they can only go with what he said, which is the way I see it, too. I just have to deal with the results, arguing whether or not I believe it's correct is pointless. I already decided it doesn't matter to me if he believes he has a problem or not, I KNOW he does. Still, he has to want to change or stop. This is something I found on-line that was close, but now that I look at it, something is off or missing because I know financial cost was one of the things, and I can't figure out which "no" I have wrong that should be a "yes". Wait, I know one of the things now was Lying about it, how much he spends, times spent, etc. and he said no though. Anyway, you can kind of get the idea. I'll have another post about some other thoughts. 1. Recurrent failure (pattern) to resist impulses to engage in specific behavior. He said no. 2. Frequent engaging in those behaviors to a greater extent or over a longer period of time than intended. He said no because he feels he spends the same amount of time now as he did when he started. I disagree. 3. Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to stop, reduce, or control those behaviors. He said no, because he has stopped a couple times. But, I disagree, because he can't maintain that for more than a week, and he has never tried to reduce, really. 4. Inordinate amount of time spent in obtaining game stuff, thinking about it, planning his next time on the game. He said no. 5. Preoccupation with the behavior or preparatory activities. He said no. 6. Frequent engaging in the behavior when expected to fulfill occupational, academic, domestic or social obligations. He said no. 7. Continuation of the behavior despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent social, financial, psychological or physical problem that is caused or exacerbated by the behavior. He said yes I think because he knows it affects our relationship? 8. Need to increase the intensity, frequency, number or risk of behaviors to achieve the desired effect or diminished effect with continued behaviors at the same level of intensity, frequency, number or risk. He said no. 9. Giving up or limiting social, occupational or recreational activities because of the behavior. He said yes. 10. Distress, anxiety, restlessness or irritability if unable to engage in the behavior. He said yes.